Author: VCR Staff

ADVICE GODDESS | Jan. 6, 2022

Downward Doghouse There’s a woman in my yoga class I’d like to ask out. Though she’s friendly to me, I worry that this could lead to awkwardness in class if she rejects me or if we date but things go poorly. I have a two-year relationship with this class — much longer than my fantasy relationship with her. What should I do? Grow a spine and go for it regardless of the eventual consequences — or fish in a different pond? — Stuck Spines are not to be grown promiscuously. In other words, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer to your...

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IN GOOD TASTE | Far East goes Southwest

PICTURED: Birria pizzadilla (with marinated beef) and beef consommé. Photo by N. Lackey Shaffer by Nancy D. Lackey Shaffer Vaquero Y Mar 435 E. Thompson Blvd., Ventura 805-626-4151 $7-21 It was with a heavy heart that we said goodbye to the iconic Hong Kong Inn some years ago. The decades-old institution, recognizable on Ventura’s Thompson Boulevard from its curved roof and retro Polynesian-style sign, was beloved as much for its faults as its virtues. The Chinese food was greasy but flavorful. The interior was shabby and dated, but spacious, with room to dance and a large music...

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FREE WILL ASTROLOGY Week of January 6 © Copyright 2021, 2022  Rob Brezsny ARIES (March 21-April 19): In the fantasy tale “The Wizard of Oz,” a tornado lifts the hero Dorothy from her modest home in rural Kansas to a magical realm called Oz. There she experiences many provocative and entertaining adventures. Nonetheless, she longs to return to where she started from. A friendly witch helps her find the way back to Kansas, which requires her to click her ruby slippers together three times and say, “There’s no place like home, there’s no place like home.” I suspect, Aries,...

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2021 RETROSPECTIVE | What was on our minds, and in our pages, the past 12 months

by Nancy D. Lackey Shaffer 2021 was a year of highs and lows. It started off with a terrifying number of COVID cases, and a light at the end of the tunnel as vaccines became more readily available. Schools continued to struggle with distance learning and then a hybrid model, but everyone eagerly returned to campus full time in the fall. Restaurants reopened, closed, and reopened again, entertainment came out of cars and got back onstage (including indoor venues) and current events stopped being all about viruses. Local politics, climate change, amazing people and organizations and a whole...

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ADVICE GODDESS | Dec. 30, 2021

Rust Issues My husband and I are in our 50s, married 25 years. I married for life, but I didn’t expect our initially happy marriage to turn into a dull housemates situation. With our children away at college, there’s no distraction from my husband’s lack of interest in having a fun, interesting life or even trying to be interesting to me. Most disturbingly, he isn’t interested in sex — at least with me — though I’m fit and still get called “beautiful.” I can pleasure myself, but I’m despondent at the prospect of spending the last decades of my...

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