Author: Amy Alkon

ADVICE GODDESS | Dec. 5, 2019

Baby Got Backup I’ve been dating this really great woman for three months. She’s just decided that she needs to be single right now, despite our forming a pretty strong connection. She explained that she really, really likes me, but she’s never been single for very long and thinks it’s best for her at the moment. I can respect that. She also says we can keep sleeping together if I want. I want to do that, but I’m wondering: Could that ruin our chances of having a real relationship again in the future? — Wanna Play It Smart People...

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ADVICE GODDESS | Nov. 28, 2019

Spurning Curve  I was feeding my meter the other day, and this guy started chatting me up outside his store and got me to take his number. He seemed sweet, but things quickly got weird when he wanted to come over the next night. I said that didn’t work for me, but I offered to swing by his work and say hi during the day. He responded angrily: “No. I wanna come to your house, but you aren’t ready for it.” I politely explained that I didn’t know him at all and wasn’t into casual sex anymore. If that...

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ADVICE GODDESS | Nov. 21, 2019

“Girl code,” like “guy code,” is a deterrent to would-be mate poachers, powered by peer pressure.  Vicious Recycle  I’ve started dating a guy that an estranged friend of mine was engaged to and dumped 25 years ago. She completely broke his heart. She’s been engaged eight times, married five, so I hardly think he was special. But some of my girlfriends think it’s not cool and say I’m breaking “girl code.” Am I betraying her? — In A Quandary  When you put your old couch out on the curb, you don’t get to make a bunch of restrictions about...

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ADVICE GODDESS | Nov. 14, 2019

Once Upon A Crime  I’ve been with my boyfriend for nine years, and I’m still pissed off about stuff from like five years ago. I don’t know how I remember this stuff when I can’t find my keys half the time. I’d like to get rid of these resentments and not keep bringing them up. I know it’s not healthy for me or our relationship, but I don’t know how to let them go. — Stuck   So, basically, this is you: “I wish they allowed dogs in my building, but no biggie. I’ll take this thing you did...

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ADVICE GODDESS | Nov. 7, 2019

A Labor Of Leave I haven’t had sex since my last breakup, and I’m all lusty. I really like this guy, but he seems to have some intimacy issues. We went on a coffee date, and the chemistry made things go further than I would have wanted or expected (making out like crazy in the car). My friends keep reminding me to build trust and friendship before sex. But can you really go backward? Like, is it possible to just hang out and chat once things have gotten hot and heavy? — Lustbucket A nice thick pane of bulletproof...

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